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kend=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOur eldest son, 23 y=
ears old, got married to the love of his life=2E If the wedding was any indi=
cation, they will be having a great time together on their honeymoon in Vanu=
atu=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe number of childre=
n living in our home has shrunk from five to four and the house is notably q=
uieter=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EEach of our son=92=
s brothers and sister has expressed some degree of sadness at the loss of th=
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0pt'=3EOur 11 year old daughter (also a bridesmaid on the big day) insisted =
on making a speech at the wedding reception, saying that she was very happy =
to be gaining an older sister=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SP=
AN=3EWith four older brothers she is delighted to have a sister to help her =
bring out the feminine point of view to set everyone straight=2E<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe are delighted with our new daughter-in=
-law=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EShe is absolutely wo=
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ral of my friends who know just how close our family is have asked me how it=
 feels to be a father-in-law=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPA=
N=3EI think they expect me to burst into tears at losing our son=2E<SPAN sty=
le=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThey were present <IMG hspace=3D4 sr=
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Cutting%20the%20Cake%20125=2Ejpg' align=3Dright border=3D0=3Eat the wedding =
ceremony, but they were not present at the many meals we have shared with ou=
r son=92s girlfriend / fianc=E9e over the last few years=2E<SPAN style=3D'ms=
o-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThey were not there the many times she has a=
ccompanied us on tour singing and playing music=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spaceru=
n: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe oldest book of wisdom readily available to man sa=
ys, =91For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be =
united to his wife and they shall become one flesh=92=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-s=
pacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EBeing a father is to set a plan for redundancy =
in place=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EBecoming a fathe=
r-in-law is a sign that the first part of that redundancy cycle is complete=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI guess there is the whole =
challenge of becoming a good father-in-law that I still need to learn about=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EHas anyone got any tips=3F<=
o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0=
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: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EThere is a say=
ing that the only two sure things in life are death and taxes=2E<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI would like to add a third: death, taxes=
 and change=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EBeing a fathe=
r is a constant process of change=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 =
</SPAN=3EBecoming a father-in-law is part of that change=2E<SPAN style=3D'ms=
o-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWhile talking with my friend Dr Bruce Robins=
on who wrote the book, =91Fathering from the Fast Lane=92, he shared with me=
 that even he has not prepared enough for the change of his children leaving=
 home=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe need to consider=
 that our fathering role is one of constant change and the ultimate commitme=
nt is to release our children to their marriage partner as they begin a new =
life together=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'=
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 that you think about the last page in Rob Parson=92s book, =91Sixty Minute =
Father=92=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EHe relates the =
story of a poem about a dad teaching his young daughter to ride a bike=2E<o:=
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: Verdana'=3EWarwick Marsh=A0=A0has been married=A0to Alison for=A028 years=2E=
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e: 11=2E0pt'=3Eby Paul Sloan<BR=3E<BR=3EAs I prepare my notes in readiness t=
o facilitate next weeks home group (on Relationships), I discovered some exc=
ellent material written by John & Judith Simpson, ex Superintendents of the =
Baptist Union in Victoria=2E The book =91Family Glue=92 was written in 1997,=
 and has much useful information on understanding the dynamics of family lif=
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AN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3EI think back to my =
early days of husband ship, and to be honest, I wasn=92t really good at it=2E=
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ious evening benefits, I was still prepared to spend much of my available ti=
me in the surf and with mates=2E Life was easy, no hassles, plenty of spare =
time, with spur of the moment decision making allowed to rule=2E Then=85brin=
g on the kids=2E How things change; how the days become shorter; and how muc=
h more do we as husband and wife fight=2E Was it the kids fault=3F Many peop=
le do blame the children for much of the quarrelling in family life, althoug=
h seemingly unfair, however conflict does seem to intensify when we are tire=
d, the kids are fighting, the hubby hasn=92t been home all day=85you know th=
e rest=2E So the million dollar question remains=85can we actually enjoy bei=
ng a parent=3F Read on!<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3Darttext styl=
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o-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3EChapter 1 of the Simpson=92s=92 book discusses=
 the ability to actually enjoy being a parent, with the 12 dot points listed=
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1=2E0pt'=3EDon=92t waste time comparing yourself with other parents=2E Somet=
imes you will come out on top; most times you will think they are doing bett=
er than you are=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3Darttext style=3D'=
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'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3EAvoid the =91just you wait=92 doomsday crow=
d=2E Their favourite speech is =91Just you wait till they=92re teenagers=92=2E=
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N=3E</SPAN=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3EPut=
 as much effort into listening to your kids as you do helping them learn to =
speak=2E There is no point in helping them put words together if you don=92t=
 listen to them=2E Family sharing time is a blue chip investment=2E<o:p=3E</=
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0pt'=3EAccept your kids invitations to play when they are small and they wil=
l more likely to continue to invite you to talk with them when they are olde=
r=2E If you are always too busy to play, it=92s time to re-order your priori=
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y to win=2E Make sure they win more than you do=2E It=92s a great way to bui=
ld confidence and have fun at the same time=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E=
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=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3ETurn off the =
TV more often=2E TV ruins good conversation, numbs the brain and can offer v=
alues which are highly questionable=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=
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family dilemma into a major issue=2E We all make mistakes and get things wro=
ng=2E Life is filled with rough edges=2E Offer patience and grace=2E<o:p=3E<=
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0pt'=3EDefine reasonable limits for family functioning=2E Guidelines are ess=
ential=2E Everybody (parents and kids) needs a framework in which to operate=
=2E Develop these early=2E Talk them over with the family and set them toget=
her=2E This will promote ownership=2E<IMG hspace=3D3 src=3D'http://www=2Ebos=
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-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3ELook after yourself=2E Tired parents find it ha=
rd to cope at the best of times=2E It=92s hard when children are teething, o=
r when there is illness=2E Unrelenting fatigue makes anyone unbearable=2E Ti=
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AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3EWhen you are wrong say so=2E You=
 cannot expect your kids to say =91sorry=92 if you have not modelled this yo=
urself=2E A sincere parental apology recognises that we all fail=2E<o:p=3E</=
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Great characters are built over a life-time, not overnight=2E If your child =
seems to making slow progress, don=92t panic=2E We all have a distance to go=
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tp://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Ffamily-=
house=2Ejpg' align=3Dleft border=3D0=3EOur greatest gift to this world will =
lie in the quality of the people who are growing up under the same roof as o=
urs=2E Whatever else our accomplishments in this life are, nothing will come=
 near the rearing of cheerful, secure young people=2E Most parents need to b=
e told many times that such an enterprise can be a truly joyful experience=2E=
<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</I=3E</P=3E<P class=3Darttext style=3D'MARGIN: auto=
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lity=85but getting it right does not always come easily=2E Common sense, mix=
ed with homespun wisdom, optimism, and faith in God will provide a great for=
mula to make the job a little more enjoyable=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E=
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ang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3ETill Next Time=85Paul<B=
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=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F<BR=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<SPAN lang=
=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 11=2E0pt'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT col=
or=3D#000000=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bid=
i-font-family: ' Courier New=3F; mso-ansi-language: EN-US=3F=3EPaul and his =
wife are the Children=92s Ministry Coordinators for the Goodlife </SPAN=3E<S=
PAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-family: ' =
Courier New=3F; mso-ansi-language: EN-US=3F=3ECommunity Centre in Buderim, Q=
LD=2E Paul has</SPAN=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAM=
ILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E children aged two,=A0ten and=A0=
thirteen years=2E Paul is an active surfer and a family man who hasn't lost =
his sense of humour=2E</SPAN=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E</SPAN=3E</S=
PAN=3E</SPAN=3E</SPAN=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a=
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</blockquote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#f=
fffff' nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/tem=
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a, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor3'=3E</a=3E<b=3EGranda=
ds</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img s=
rc=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5F=
issue93-7th June, 2004=5Fgrandpablogger=2Ejpg' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <FONT=
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=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<P class=3DMsoBodyText sty=
le=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT style=3D'BACKGROUND-COLOR: yellow'=3E<SPA=
N class=3Ds14b1=3E<SPAN style=3D'LETTER-SPACING: 0pt; mso-ansi-font-size: 10=
=2E0pt'=3E<STRONG=3EIn touch with grandkids=2E</STRONG=3E</SPAN=3E</SPAN=3E<=
/FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoBodyText style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT s=
tyle=3D'BACKGROUND-COLOR: white'=3E<SPAN class=3Ds14b1=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT=
-WEIGHT: normal; LETTER-SPACING: 0pt; mso-ansi-font-size: 10=2E0pt'=3ESepara=
ted from their grandchildren by years--and miles--creative grandparents are =
finding ways to stay close=2E (Extended Family)=2E<=3Fxml:namespace prefix =3D=
 o ns =3D 'urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office' /=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPA=
N=3E</SPAN=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: j=
ustify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Verda=
na; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ' New Times mso-ansi-=
language: mso-fareast-font-family: AR-SA=3F mso-bidi-language: mso-fareast-l=
anguage: Roman=3F; =3FTimes EN-US;=3Eby Nick Gallo</SPAN=3E<BR=3E</P=3E<P st=
yle=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<BR=3E<BR=3EAt summer c=
amp in New York's Adirondack Mountains, 6-year-old Hannah had a blast=2E She=
 hiked in the woods=2E She went canoeing=2E She ate s'mores and sang folk so=
ngs around a campfire=2E When she returned home to Vermont, her parents aske=
d her to name her favorite thing about spending time at camp=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E=
</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALI=
GN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E=
<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E'Being with Grandma,' she pro=
mptly replied=2E That's the idea of the grandparent-grandchild camp Hannah a=
ttended, one of many such summer adventures offered around the country for g=
randparents and their grandkids=2E 'She'll always remember the summer she we=
nt to camp with Grandma,' says Holly Noble, Hannah's grandmother who lives i=
n California--too far away to see her grandchildren regularly=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=
=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-=
ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5p=
t'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EWith millions of familie=
s separated by distances that make day-to-day contact impossible, the push i=
s on for new ways to strengthen bonds, and cross-generational summer camps a=
re just the beginning=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P s=
tyle=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SI=
ZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3D=
Verdana=3E'We're entering a new age of vital grandparenting,' says psychiatr=
ist Arthur Kornhaber, creator of the Foundation for Grandparenting (<A href=3D=
'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/rr=2Easp=3Fs=3D2279&v=3D55&c=3D=
21&u=3Dhttp://www=2Egrandparenting=2Eorg)' Grandparents=3F=3Ewww=2Egrandpare=
nting=2Eorg)'Grandparents</A=3E are now more active and more educated=2E The=
y understand more than ever that families need to band together=2E'<o:p=3E</=
o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TE=
XT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E=
5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EBut reinforcing that l=
ove and affection over long distances isn't easy=2E Experts say two things a=
re crucial: regular contact and frequent communication=2E Here's a look at h=
ow some grandparents are devising ways to maintain both=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</F=
ONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN:=
 justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<=
FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT color=3Ddarkblue=3EHOME VISITING<o:p=3E=
</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT:=
 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-f=
ont-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EStudies =
show that only one-third of grandparents live near enough to a grandchild to=
 see him or her once or twice a week=2E But it's critical to make face-to-fa=
ce contact--even ff it's just a few times a year, says Kornhaber, author of =
The Grandparent Guide=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P s=
tyle=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SI=
ZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3D=
Verdana=3EDevelop special rituals for those visits, suggests Amy Goyer, coor=
dinator of the American Association of Retired Persons' Grandparent Informat=
ion Center=2E Play a certain board game together=2E Pick a particular restau=
rant to be a favorite=2E Reserve a specific activity that's just shared by t=
he two of you=2E 'Do something a few times and it becomes a special tie,' sh=
e says=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HE=
IGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-b=
idi-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EDon=
't try to pack in a million activities or force a relationship in a single v=
isit, says Goyer=2E Let it develop naturally, and you may find not only oppo=
rtunities to bond, but also to reinforce values--which is a major part of th=
e job once you've become a grandparent=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</=
SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN=
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333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EThat's what Sharon Caulder did on a recent visi=
t with her grandchildren=2E Knowing that grandsons Tre, 9, and Landon, 7, we=
re big fans of the Star Wars movies, she took them to the latest episode=2E =
Afterward, as she and the two boys talked about the moral choices that the c=
haracters faced, the conversation expanded to focus on how the children migh=
t handle similar challenges=2E 'Now, I'm Grandma Yoda,' she smiles=2E 'When =
the kids have a problem, they call me to discuss it=2E'<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=
=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: ju=
stify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FON=
T face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT color=3Dblueviolet=3E<STRONG=3ESTAYING CONNECTED<o:=
p=3E</o:p=3E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'LINE-HEI=
GHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bi=
di-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EWhen=
 visits end, it's vital to keep communication going,<IMG hspace=3D3 src=3D'h=
ttp://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fcomput=
er%206=2Egif' align=3Dright border=3D0=3E says Kornhaber=2E Fortunately, mod=
ern technology is revolutionizing the means to communicate=2E If you're not =
already using computers as part of your strategy, consider taking a crash co=
urse in the basics at a local school or even an electronics store=2E With in=
expensive, simple-to-use models widely available, 'cyber-grandparenting' is =
getting easier all the time=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'L=
INE-HEIGHT: 13=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt;=
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-font-size: 8=2E5pt'=3E<FONT color=3D#333333=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EThis a=
rticle is reprinted and can be found at:<BR=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<B=3E=
<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 8=2E5pt; COLOR: #333333'=3E<A href=3D'http://www=2E=
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key=3D%22Nick%20Gallo%22'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3ENick Gallo</FONT=3E</A=3E=
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er</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img s=
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issue93-7th June, 2004=5Fbungeejump=2Ejpg' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <H4=3E<P=3E=
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=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt; mso=
-bidi-font-family: ' New Times mso-ansi-language: mso-fareast-font-family: A=
R-SA=3F mso-bidi-language: mso-fareast-language: Roman=3F; =3FTimes EN-US;=3E=
<FONT color=3Dmaroon=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; ms=
o-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto'=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DM=
soNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-=
bottom-alt: auto'=3E=A0</P=3E<H4=3ETop 10 Wrong Ways <BR=3ETo Initiate Your =
Son <BR=3EInto Manhood</H4=3E<P=3E=A0</P=3E<P=3E=A0</P=3E<P=3E=A0</P=3E<P cl=
ass=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-=
margin-bottom-alt: auto'=3E10=2E Teach him the secret male ritual of leaving=
 the toilet seat up and the toilet paper roll empty=2E<BR=3E<BR=3E9=2E Have =
a ceremony where you give him his own remote control=2E<BR=3E<BR=3E8=2E Lead=
 him through an afternoon of rigorous physical training in the back yard whi=
le you sit in a lawn chair with a half-gallon of ice cream=2E<BR=3E<BR=3E7=2E=
 Eat until you're about to burst and then ride the Screamin' Hurler roller c=
oaster=2E<IMG hspace=3D3 src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast=
/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fcat=5Flicking=5Fchops%20125=2Ejpg' align=3Dright =
border=3D0=3E<BR=3E<BR=3E6=2E Put cream on his face and let the cat shave hi=
m with its tongue=2E<BR=3E<BR=3E5=2E Walk behind him through his school hall=
s yelling, 'You da man!'<BR=3E<BR=3E4=2E Send him to the local discount stor=
e to buy mom's 'personal things=2E'<BR=3E<BR=3E3=2E Give him Grandma's lime =
green Gremlin with personalized license plates that say, 'TUFFGUY=2E'<BR=3E<=
BR=3E2=2E Send the womenfolk shopping, then get out your secret <I=3EOld Yel=
ler</I=3E video and have a good cry together=2E<BR=3E<BR=3E1=2E Shot put cat=
ching=2E </P=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</SPAN=3E</SPAN=3E</SPAN=3E</H4=3E<br=3E<br=
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<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://=
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nner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bg=
color=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast=
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size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E=
<a name=3D'anchor5'=3E</a=3E<b=3ESingle Dads </b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D've=
rdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2E=
au/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissue93-7th June, 2004=5FCampingW=
ithDad 250=2Ejpg' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E=
<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 9=2E=
0pt'=3EThere are lots of different ways of being a single dad=2E You might b=
e a dad with sole responsibility for the children, a dad who sees your child=
ren some of the time or a dad who hardly sees your children at all=2E You mi=
ght be a single dad through divorce or through death=2E<=3Fxml:namespace pre=
fix =3D o ns =3D 'urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office' /=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E=
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N: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi=
-font-size: 11=2E5pt'=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT color=3D#ff6600=3EWhat single Dads c=
an do<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIG=
N: justify'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi=
-font-size: 9=2E0pt'=3EIf you are separated from your children's mother, bei=
ng a father may be hard, but there are some very important things that you c=
an do for your children=2E You are still their parent=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPA=
N=3E</P=3E<UL type=3Ddisc=3E<LI class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 4=
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le fathers can give children a feeling of being safe and secure by the way t=
hey look after them=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<LI class=3D=
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tyle=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 9=2E0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial'=3E<FONT si=
ze=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3ETry not to let hurts or anger about your chi=
ldren's mother spoil your relationship with your children=2E Parents fightin=
g is one of the most damaging things that can happen for children=2E If you =
can't work something positive out with your ex-partner, get some help for th=
e sake of the children=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<LI clas=
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 it is painful to have to keep saying goodbye after you see them=2E Your chi=
ldren need your love and care even though goodbyes are hard=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E=
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es it might seem as if it would be easier for the children if you did not se=
e them=2E If you are a caring father it will be good for them to see you eve=
n if the comings and goings are difficult=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E=
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ly: Arial'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EChildren will be hurt i=
f you stay away because you are disappointed or angry about your money arran=
gements=2E Whatever has been arranged by adults is not your children's fault=
=2E They still need your care=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<=
LI class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 4=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; =
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'=3E<SPAN style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 9=2E0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial'=
=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EBe positive (or don't say anythin=
g) when you talk to the children about their mother=2E If you don't do this =
they will be torn between the two of you and things will be much harder for =
them=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<LI class=3DMsoNormal styl=
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 try not to weigh the children down with your feelings=2E None of it was the=
ir making=2E They need you to care about what they need=2E They are not old =
enough to worry about what you need=2E If you can't let the feelings go, tal=
k about it to friends and get adult support so you can be right with your ch=
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NT face=3DVerdana=3EWhen the children are with you let them share your life=2E=
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=3EChildren will get more out of just being with you than expensive presents=
 and always going on exciting outings (although they may ask)=2E <o:p=3E</o:=
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e reliable about pick-ups and drop-offs and sending back clothes=2E Use 'giv=
e and take' when it comes to making arrangements=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E=
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d messages with the children or keep asking them questions about their mothe=
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ont-size: 9=2E0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT fac=
e=3DVerdana=3EKeep in touch - often=2E Phone and write and remember birthday=
s and special occasions=2E Contact them when there are important school even=
ts such as exams, or going for a job=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</S=
PAN=3E<LI class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 4=2E5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: ju=
stify; tab-stops: list 36=2E0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-top-al=
t: auto'=3E<SPAN style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 9=2E0pt; mso-bidi-font-family:=
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 rules and ways of doing things at your house=2E Children can learn to under=
stand that there are different ways of doing things in different situations=2E=
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Verdana=3EAs children get older, give permission for them to choose to stay =
with their mother or at a friend's place instead of staying with you=2E They=
 need to know that it is OK with you so they don't feel guilty=2E <o:p=3E</o=
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Try not to show that you are upset if your children's mother gets another pa=
rtner=2E She is moving on from the old relationship and so can you=2E You wi=
ll still always be the children's father=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E=
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ly: Arial'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EAll children have worri=
es sometimes=2E Make it comfortable for children to talk to you and encourag=
e them to share their worries as well as their successes=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E<=
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 have the right to separate from their partner but they still have the respo=
nsibility to be a parent=2E Children have the right to be cared for by both =
parents, even if you are not together=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</=
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<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<B style=3D'mso-bidi-font-weight: normal'=
=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt=
'=3ERediscovering rites of passage for our time<BR=3E</SPAN=3E</B=3E<B style=
=3D'mso-bidi-font-weight: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 1=
0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E(Part 4)<BR=3E</SPAN=3E</B=3E<I style=3D=
'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt;=
 mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3Eby Richard Rohr, O=2EF=2EM=2E</SPAN=3E</I=3E=
<STRONG=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 1=
2=2E0pt'=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: =
justify'=3E<STRONG=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-f=
ont-size: 12=2E0pt'=3ESo What About Us=3F</SPAN=3E</STRONG=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN=
-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E=
</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E</SPAN=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-A=
U style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EYou should now b=
e asking the right questions: How do I get initiated myself=3F What are the =
essential 'mysteries' that must be communicated=3F <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E<=
/P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZ=
E: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EInitiation is always about transfor=
ming: holding out for win-win, both-and, turning pain into power=2E Very few=
 of us are well taught in this area, even the clergy who often see themselve=
s as problem solvers instead of agents of transformation, as careerists inst=
ead of prophets of an alternative consciousness=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E<=
/P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZ=
E: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EI think it is into this vacuum that=
 the modern men=92s movements have come=2E Whether you agree with their mess=
age or style is not the important first question=2E Men are looking for spir=
itual experience, they are trying to submit themselves to 'godfathers' in a =
country with very few of them=2E They are at least recognizing the need and =
the problem, and we do little good for them by simply dismissing and debunki=
ng them without offering a positive alternative for them=2E The steps to mat=
urity are necessarily immature and the wise ones are always willing to wait=2E=
<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3D=
EN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EMaybe your t=
ask is to read, study, pray, and suffer for a while=2E Remember, God and lif=
e will initiate you anyway=2E You just have to be expectant and ready=2E May=
be this little article is enough to get you on the path=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</=
SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'=
FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EAs for the essential messag=
es, I have gleaned these from my crosscultural observations=2E Somehow, male=
 initiation must communicate the following to the young man: <o:p=3E</o:p=3E=
</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<STRONG=3E<I style=3D'mso-=
bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-=
bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3ELife Is Hard </SPAN=3E</I=3E</STRONG=3E<SPAN lan=
g=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E<o:p=3E<=
/o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU =
style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EIf you can be conv=
inced of this early in life and not waste time trying to avoid it or making =
it easy for yourself, you will ironically have much less useless suffering i=
n the long run=2E Because we avoid the legitimate pain of being human, we br=
ing upon ourselves much longer, meaningless, and desperate pain=2E <o:p=3E</=
o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<STRONG=3E<I style=3D=
'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt;=
 mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EYou Are Going to Die </SPAN=3E</I=3E</STRON=
G=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0p=
t'=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN =
lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EThe c=
ertainty and reality of one=92s own death must be made very real=2E The youn=
g man must live as one who has already died 'the first death' and is not pro=
tecting himself from the second=2E This is seen in the traditional Christian=
 baptismal teaching: 'Do you not know that you who were baptized were baptiz=
ed into the dying of Christ=3F' (Romans 6:3)=2E One=92s death must be ritual=
ized through trials, facing loss and one=92s fear of loss, and symbolic drow=
ning of the baptized=2E Now we are unpracticed and unprepared for loss of an=
y kind=2E 'Suffering,' the Buddha says, 'is part of the deal=2E' <o:p=3E</o:=
p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<STRONG=3E<I style=3D'=
mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; =
mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EYou Are Not That Important </SPAN=3E</I=3E</=
STRONG=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=
=2E0pt'=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<=
SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E=
Cosmic and personal humility is of central importance for truth and happines=
s in this world=2E The initiate must be rightly situated in a world that dem=
ands respect from him, or he will have an inflated-deflated sense of himself=
 that will need continual reassurance=2E This is almost the complete contrar=
y of the post-modern 'I am special' button=2E Littleness is nothing to be de=
nied or disguised, but gives a basis for all community, family, and service=2E=
 <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<STRONG=3E=
<I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-=
SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EYou Are Not in Control </SPAN=3E=
</I=3E</STRONG=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-=
size: 12=2E0pt'=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: just=
ify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E=
0pt'=3EThe illusion of control must be surrendered by a deep experience of o=
ne=92s own powerlessness=2E Usually only suffering accomplishes this task, e=
specially unjust suffering and things that one cannot change=2E Reality and =
God are in control, and we will normally not accept this until led to the li=
mits of our own resources=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-=
ALIGN: justify'=3E<STRONG=3E<I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN=
 lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EYour=
 Life Is Not About You </SPAN=3E</I=3E</STRONG=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D=
'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</=
P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE=
: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EThis is the essential and summary ex=
perience=2E You must know that you are a part of something and somebody much=
 bigger than yourself=2E Your life is not about you, it is about God=2E Henc=
eforward, the entire human experience takes on a dramatically different char=
acter=2E We call it holiness=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEX=
T-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-fo=
nt-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EIF THESE SEEM rather negative or even wrong to you, it =
might be a statement of how deeply we have been formed in the soft and indiv=
idualistic ethos of the recent West=2E For all of its advances in technology=
 and human rights, it has not found a way to integrate the private individua=
l into a larger and healthy society=2E That larger and healthy society is pr=
ecisely the work of initiation=97without sacrificing the importance and dign=
ity of the individual person=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TE=
XT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-f=
ont-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EThe goal of initiation rites, and healthy religion, is=
 to situate and align the individual correctly in the universe=2E Such align=
ment is the foundation for a deep and enduring human dignity, a dignity that=
 the young man can now see in everything and everybody else, because it is n=
ot his own=2E It is ours=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P style=3D'TEXT-A=
LIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-=
size: 12=2E0pt'=3EReligious people might describe that as belonging to God=2E=
 Jesus might have described it 'as the peace that the world cannot give' (Jo=
hn 14:27) and the 'joy that no one can take from you' (John 16:22)=2E It can=
not be taken from you or even given to you, because it is no longer based on=
 you=2E It just is=2E And it is good=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P clas=
s=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt' align=3Dleft=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E=
<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E=
<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
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P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<I style=3D'mso-bidi-fon=
t-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY:=
 Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3ERICHARD ROHR, OFM, </SPAN=3E</I=3E=
<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-=
font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3Ea<I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E </I=3ESo=
journers<I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E contributing editor, is =
founder of the Center for Action & Contemplation in Albuquerque, New Mexico,=
 which sponsors rites-of-passage retreats for men and for women=2E The seeds=
 of this material can be found in his books</I=3E The Wild Man=92s Journey <=
I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E(St=2E Anthony Messenger Press, 19=
92) and</I=3E The Quest for the Grail <I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: norma=
l'=3E(Crossroad, 1994)=2E He is working on a book on the patterns of male in=
itiation=2E</I=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D=
2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</=
font=3E</blockquote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgcolo=
r=3D'#ffffff' nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fbl=
ast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/banner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E<=
/tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'ht=
tp://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Gener=
ic/fade=2Egif'=3E<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, H=
elvetica, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor7'=3E</a=3E<b=3E=
Thought for the Week</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<=
br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5F=
images/fathers=5Fissue93-7th June, 2004=5FNat  Jodi 2 250=2Ejpg' align=3Dlef=
t=3E</div=3E <SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E<FO=
NT color=3Ddeeppink=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU=3E<FONT color=3Dbrown=3E<SPAN lang=3D=
EN-AU=3E<FONT color=3D#000000=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 14pt'=
=3E<FONT color=3Ddarkmagenta=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm=
 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center' align=3Dcenter=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU=3E<STRONG=3E<F=
ONT face=3D'Comic Sans MS'=3E<FONT size=3D5=3E<FONT color=3Dindigo=3EFor thi=
s reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be united with his wife=
 and the two will become one flesh=2E<=3Fxml:namespace prefix =3D o ns =3D '=
urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office' /=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E=
</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm=
 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center' align=3Dcenter=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU=3E<FONT fa=
ce=3D'Comic Sans MS'=3E<FONT size=3D5=3E<FONT color=3Dindigo=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o=
:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D=
'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center' align=3Dcenter=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-A=
U=3E<FONT face=3D'Comic Sans MS' color=3Dindigo size=3D4=3EGenesis 2:24</FON=
T=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-A=
LIGN: center' align=3Dcenter=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</FONT=3E=
</SPAN=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=
=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E=
</font=3E</blockquote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgco=
lor=3D'#ffffff' nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5F=
blast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/banner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E=
</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'h=
ttp://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Gene=
ric/fade=2Egif'=3E<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, =
Helvetica, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor8'=3E</a=3E<b=3E=
News & Info</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=
=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/=
fathers=5Fissue93-7th June, 2004=5Fnews=5Finfo=2Ejpg' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E=
 <P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EThe figures speak for themse=
lves</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe Austr=
alian Bureau of Statistics found in 2001 there were just over 2=2E3million m=
um-and-dad families and 2187 two-mum or two-dad families=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=
=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ERead the rest below:</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<=
A href=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/rr=2Easp=3Fs=3D2279&v=
=3D55&c=3D21&u=3Dhttp://theaustralian=2Enews=2Ecom=2Eau/common/story=5Fpage/=
0,5744,9750151%255E2702,00=2Ehtml'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D1=3Ehttp://=
theaustralian=2Enews=2Ecom=2Eau/common/story=5Fpage/0,5744,9750151%255E2702,=
00=2Ehtml</FONT=3E</A=3E</P=3E<P=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
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=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F</P=3E<P=3E<FONT fa=
ce=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT color=3Dmediumvioletred=3ENational D=
ay of Thanksgiving</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E<BR=3EThe Hon Peter Costello spoke of =
an amazing understanding of Australia's heritage and were we are heading as =
a nation at the National Day of Thanksgiving service in Melbourne=2E</FONT=3E=
</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<EM=3E'We would be better to forg=
et the litigation and work to reinforce the values drawn from the tradition =
that underlies our society =96 respect for individuals, tolerance within a f=
ramework of law, and mutual respect=2E' Mr Costello said=2E</EM=3E</FONT=3E<=
/P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<EM=3E'We should not take things f=
or granted=2E=2E=2E'</P=3E</EM=3E</FONT=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=
=3ERead the entire text below:</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<A href=3D'http://www=2Ebo=
sweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/rr=2Easp=3Fs=3D2279&v=3D55&c=3D21&u=3Dhttp://w=
ww=2Esightmagazine=2Ecom=2Eau/stories/Features/costello3=2E6=2E04=2Ehtm'=3E<=
FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D1=3Ehttp://www=2Esightmagazine=2Ecom=2Eau/stories=
/Features/costello3=2E6=2E04=2Ehtm</FONT=3E</A=3E<BR=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F<BR=3E=
<BR=3E<FONT size=3D5=3E<B=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EFamily</FONT=3E</B=3E<FON=
T face=3DVerdana=3EEXPO<B=3E2004</B=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<FONT size=3D6=
=3E<FONT color=3D#ffffff size=3D5=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana c=
olor=3Ddarkmagenta=3E<STRONG=3EStrengthening Marriage & Family</STRONG=3E</F=
ONT=3E</P=3E</FONT=3E<FONT size=3D5=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT face=
=3DVerdana=3EBrisbane 24th July, 2004</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dle=
ft=3E<FONT size=3D3=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EMore details at </FON=
T=3E</STRONG=3E<A href=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/rr=2E=
asp=3Fs=3D2279&v=3D55&c=3D21&u=3Dhttp://www=2Efamilyexpo=2Enet'=3E<STRONG=3E=
<FONT face=3DVerdana=3Ewww=2Efamilyexpo=2Enet</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</A=3E</FON=
T=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT size=3D3=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
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</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center'=
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na=3EMedia Release<=3Fxml:namespace prefix =3D o ns =3D 'urn:schemas-microso=
ft-com:office:office' /=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</SPAN=
=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DE=
N-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</S=
PAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3D=
EN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT size=
=3D4=3EFatherhood Foundation congratulates Prime Minister </FONT=3E</STRONG=3E=
</SPAN=3E<SPAN=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT size=3D4=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3Eon his go=
al to strengthen marriage<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E</SPAN=3E=
</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-A=
U style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=
=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DE=
N-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3EThe Fatherhood Founda=
tion congratulates the Prime Minister and his government on his move to stre=
ngthen and support marriage=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=
=3EThe proposal to define marriage as the physical union of a man and woman =
for life is long overdue=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3E=
The fact that 1=2E5% of the population would like to demean marriage is not =
a sufficient argument to change the oldest institution known to man or woman=
=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0=
cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=
=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0c=
m 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verda=
na'=3E<STRONG=3EChildren need a father and a mother<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</STRONG=3E=
</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN la=
ng=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=
=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN=
 lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3EA child is c=
onceived when a man and a woman make love=2E A child is born 9 months later=2E=
 This child is totally dependant on mum and dad=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spaceru=
n: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EMothers and fathers complement each other in their im=
portant roles=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIt has been=
 shown by study after study around the world that a child needs a mother and=
 a father to achieve the best results in life=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun:=
 yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ESometimes, through tragedy, a child loses a mother or a=
 father=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ETo force this upo=
n our children by law is an aberration beyond belief=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=
=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DE=
N-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</S=
PAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3D=
EN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E<STRONG=3EThe future=
 of marriage will determine the destiny of Australia<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</STRONG=3E=
</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN la=
ng=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=
=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN=
 lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3ETo quote fro=
m the preamble to The 12pt Plan, prepared by the National Fathering Forum, i=
n consultation with members from the broad Australian community:<o:p=3E</o:p=
=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<I st=
yle=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE:=
 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3EThe greatest resource this country possesses =
lies in the families of our nation=2E At the same time, the strength of our =
families depends on the quality of the relationships between its mothers and=
 fathers=2E The quality of relationships between its mothers and fathers and=
 their children will determine the destiny of Australia=2E =2E =2E =2E =2E =2E=
 =2E </SPAN=3E</I=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY=
: Verdana'=3E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0=A0</SPAN=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=
=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN=
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o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<I=
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ZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana'=3EThe best way to ensure strong families is =
to support strong marriages=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=
=3EThis traditional family unit =96 a loving father, mother and their childr=
en =96 is the best way to nurture, educate and protect children=2E<SPAN styl=
e=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThis is the best social security syst=
em the world has ever known=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</I=3E</P=3E<P class=3D=
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'=3EIn all of our talk about rights we seem to forget the rights of the chil=
d=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe Fatherhood Foundati=
on believes that every child has a fundamental right to both a father and a =
mother=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EEarlier last week =
Mr Howard was attacked by a leading member of the opposition who claimed tha=
t the most important thing we can give our children is literacy=2E<SPAN styl=
e=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe Prime Minister replied, =93I disa=
gree =2E =2E =2E the greatest gift you can give your children is love=94=2E<=
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It is love between a man and a woman that produces a child=2E The greatest g=
ift they can give their children is their love=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun=
: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe Fatherhood Foundation is convinced that the greate=
st need a child has is for that love to continue=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacer=
un: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EMarriage between a man and woman for life is the bes=
t way to protect that love for our children=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: y=
es'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ETo settle for anything less is simply second best=2E<SPAN=
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vices , Health and Education to a forum on <FONT color=3Dmediumblue=3E<STRON=
G=3E'Engaging men as Fathers'</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E<BR=3E<BR=3E</FONT=3ES</FON=
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ADRIENNE BURGESS, International Fatherhood Consultant , Author & Broadcaster=
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